It's strange how crying has become taboo for the men, but somehow for the women too.
The fact that we shrug off her tears because she is not a man and say "she's just being emotional" is telling. We expect her to cry. We expect her to be crazy, expect her to make up stories just because she speaks in nuance and we think to ourselves that we "don't have time" to piece together nuance so we don't even bother trying to listen.
When it is a man that has tears we don't expect nuance from him at all. "What could possibly make a man cry" we think. We look back through our personal experience with men, remember only the aggressive, belligerent, stubborn men we personally know and think "he's the same" so we don't even bother trying to listen.
So it is clear that no one knows what it means to be emotional. Why do we then make fun of people who are emotional and concern themselves with nuance?
No one knows what it means to cry as an adult. Why do we think it strange when we see it then?
When a baby is born, they cry.
We might allot our own meaning to a baby's cry, but plainly, I will tell you that it resembles birth.
Birth because when a baby is hungry they will cry to tell you so. The baby is hungry NOW, so they will cry NOW.
Birth because when a baby doesn't have attention and their previous attempts at you have failed, they will cry right then and there.
Birth because when a baby hurts themselves or has a bruise, they will cry right then to indicate that they feel the pain.
Birth, because we seek to interpret among a baby's many sounds which one thing it might be referring to at any given moment.
As an adult, when we cry the meaning doesn't change, but the interpretation does.
Those interpretations include the fact that there are going to be experiences that cause us to realize that we lack certain things, things that cause us to grow.
In those moments our realization and growth are going to be accompanied by crying... Because at a very deep and unknown part within us, we are coming in that present moment to be filled with a new perspective.
We are being "born again", if you will. Every single time you cry, imagine coming out of your own emotional womb. Fresh set of emotions ready to be felt.
Of course, this doesn't mean you need to cry every single time you feel the sensation to do so however, this DOES mean that you need to understand why you cry when you do. You need to understand because your parents will not always be here to take care of you, and neither will your lover, and neither will your brother or your sister. No one directly tells you what needs to happen when you cry because they just busied themselves trying to make the situation better. That's all you ever observed as a child.
So a gap needs to be filled here.
The lack you feel and the need you have must be supplanted. You should always know why you cry; the reason will always be valid, so something must be done about it.
The people who look at you as though your tears as taboo because you're a "man" or a "woman" are not the people who can help you. Likewise, if no one caused the problems that you have, no one can help you fix those problems either.
The ultimate problem is that people generalize nuance in an effort to satisfy the issue quickly without spending too much time on it. This causes people to attempt to stop your tears instead of empathize with them.
From the outside looking in, people will try to find all kinds of reasons why you should not be crying, yet from the inside looking out, it is almost strange that they have no clue why you are.
Allow yourself to be reborn as many times as it takes to know yourself.
That is when the tears will stop.
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